By Joshua Nyamache
It really hurts parenting kids whose behavior everyone complains about in the neighborhood. You really don’t want your neighbors to be yelling at you because your children did something crazy. Not all fathers and mothers out there are able to bring up their children in a manner that is acceptable by society.
Some parents neglect their duties as parents. Instead of them guiding their children to grow up knowing the right ways, they impart them ways that are not righteous through the acts of their deeds. They teach them hatred instead of love. Children learn from their observations, what parents do is what their children will learn from them.
If you don’t guide your children well by imparting them good behaviors, then they’ll definitely be a disaster wherever they go. And, this will imply how poor you’re when it comes to parenting. You’ll have actually failed your children. But, what if your children are said to be well-behaved by people? Definitely you’ll be proud.
Some of the kids practice bad habits and this makes their parents to worry. Here are some things parents should be aware of:
1.) What you may think as a bad behavior could be just a normal stage of development for the child. For example, when children are very young they could be asking all sort of questions and some of these questions could be very embarrassing. This could be considered as a bad habit by some parents. However, children will outgrow this in the end and know the appropriate questions to ask.
2.) Some bad habits might be the child’s way of soothing himself. Sometimes, children might suck on their shirts or one of the fingers (thumb-sucking) in place of crying or screaming. This calms them and lets them feel more secure. Once children are past age of thumb-sucking, parents should use a proper way of making their children to stop the habit.
3.) Children might use some bad habits in order to feel in control of their surroundings. When they first go to daycare they could exhibit different behaviors. One example is when they feel insecure at daycare and to soothe themselves, they rub on their clothing. But this behavior will be stopped once they get used with the daycare environment.
4.) Many times, children perform actions that adults don’t understand and they might take them to be bad habits. For instance, when the child’s hands are chilly, they could for instance place the hands between their thighs to warm them. Parents many times misread this and yell at them like they’re doing something wrong. If the adults knew the child’s hands were cold, then they might have given them another solution.
5.) Severe punishments are not the way to go with the bad habits that children tend to practice. When kids are behaving badly with the aim of trying to soothe themselves, it will be counterproductive making them feel bad. Some parents get so flustered with their children’s bad habits and punish them severely. There is a way you can make your children to understand that they’re behaving badly without punishing them severely.
6.) Teaching the child behaviors that are good in place of the destructive or annoying bad habits is a more productive way to go. You should be able to train your kid to become aware of their bad habits. When they change behaviors, give them a reward. This will motivate them.
7.) Normally, it is best just to wait. The child’s bad habits disappear as time goes by. When they get old enough to go to school, other kids will criticize them hence they’ll quit the bad habits.
Proverbs 22:6, “Train children in the right way, and when old, they will not stray.”
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