Why Attachment Parenting Is So Important To A Baby?

Any new parent who has their first baby will understand that a baby desires to be loved and cared for 24/7. This shows that humans are emotional creatures that need love in order to survive. That is why attachment parenting is so important to a baby because this method of parenting is necessary to create that special bonding between you and your child immediately after birth.

Telling your baby stories every night is a nice way to develop a stronger bond with your child. If you’re looking for some stories to read, why not take a look at www.TerrificParenting.com for some of these moral stories for children.

Once a strong natural and biological attachment is formed, the infant will start to recognize the care giving qualities of the parent and will start to accepting world and life as something that is both beautiful and loving.


Great Toilet Training Tips For Toddlers

By Sarah Pietrzak

Are you and your toddler just about ready to say goodbye to dirty nappies for good? If you are, then it’s time to get clued up on the subject of toilet training. Toilet training (also known as potty training) can be a difficult and challenging time for both you and your little toddler but with good advice and guidelines it’s easy peasy. It can also be a fun and memorable time, as your child is likely to say things about bodily functions that will make you laugh.

Toilet training tips

Even the most understanding parent with the most co-operative child can sometimes hit a snag. For these occasions, we have compiled a list of top toilet training tips to get you back on track. Getting your child to stay dry at night can be a tough task to accomplish. Here are some of our awesome toilet training tips:.

• Try not to leave your little one’s feet dangling while they sit on the loo as this can sometimes hinder bowel movements. Put a little box or stool down so that your toddler can rest their feet and make using the loo as easy as possible.

• Try to get your kids to understand that it’s way more comfortable to be dry instead of wet; this will add some extra motivation.

• Try to gradually phase out nappies as some children hate change and this may cause them to regress in their toilet training progress.

• Try to give your toddler as much privacy when using the toilet as possible as some kids won’t use the loo if someone is watching.

• Make the bathroom environment as welcoming as possible by putting in some of your little one’s favourite toys and maybe even a book or too next to the loo.

• Try making up a li’l tune aka “Look Who’s Talking” and sing it every time your child goes to the toilet successfully. Include generous praise and compliments in the song so that your tot knows they are doing something good.

• Put some food dye into the toilet so your child can enjoy watching it change colour after using the loo. This tip is a huge hit with tots!

• Give surprise treats, lollies and gifts to your toddler after using the bathroom. This positive reinforcement will encourage the use of the toilet.

• Create a bit of buzz around flushing the lavatory and make this your child’s special job. In order for this to work, you should try to make your child understand that they can only flush the loo once they have used it.

• Training pants, like Huggies Pull-Ups, can make toilet training quicker and easier.

The most important things to remember with toilet training are to wait until your child or toddler and family are ready and to make it a positive experience. Be patient, and look forward to the days of freedom from nappies and little accidents.

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How Trauma Affects Parenting

By Anne Ream

We automatically inherit the parenting skills our parents used as they were raising us. That is one reason parenting can be such a challenge. Because our parents used a particular method of discipline, we often believe that such a method is normal, so we do the same. Unfortunately, what we think of as “normal” is not always healthy.

Parents have a legitimate complaint when they say, “children do not come with directions.” That is true, and unfortunate. Parenting is the most important and most difficult job we ever do, and no one teaches us how to do it, effectively.

Fortunately, some people, long ago, noticed that by increasing their kinder parenting skills, their children seemed better. By treating their children better, the children were happier, more compliant with the parents wishes, and eventually became adults who were able to function better than other adults whose parents had not been as kind. And those healthier children, in turn, also raised healthier, more functional adults. This has benefited and continues to benefit humanity. The discovery of positive parenting skills eventually resulted in the 1963 passing of child abuse laws. The laws have been highly controversial and, fortunately, remain in place.

Anyone would feel bad if they were accused of abusing their children. No one wants to abuse their children. Most of us genuinely love our children and want to raise them to be healthy, high functioning adults. Indeed, some scientists believe that there is a natural desire, perhaps driven by evolution, to raise our children using positive parenting skills. Looking at the history of raising children, and the social improvements that have been building throughout history, with mankinds increasing ability to be kind to one another, one can see that this might be true.

When parents are accused of abusing their child, they genuinely feel hurt and shocked. It is the most difficult accusation for any parent to hear. It is wise to be aware, when we first become parents, that someday this child will be an adult and as an adult, will process how he or she was raised and decide if his or her parents were good enough. Someday this child, as an adult, might confront her or his parents with the accusation that they were abusive.

An accusation of abuse does not mean that the parents did or do not love their children. Millions of parents have both loved and abused their children. Indeed, most parents believe that they are doing what is best for their children, while they are abusing them. Many people remember their parents beating them while telling them it was, “for your own good.” Many people remember their parents beating them while telling them, “You asked for it!” And there lies a key to the problem. Many people believe that they deserved the beatings they got, because their parents told them so. Many people believe that it is their fault that their parents beat them. And many people, who were beaten as children, believe that they are “okay” despite having been beaten, so, will beat their own children. It is called the cycle of abuse. This cycle is very difficult to interrupt, precisely because the parents do love their children, believe they are doing what is right and do not want to lose their children.

The majority of people who abuse their children are not monsters, nor are they crazy. Child abuse does not know any boundaries such as education level, class, income or level of sophistication. Nor does child abuse know any limits placed by religion. Child abuse exists in all neighborhoods, at all levels of income, education, and class. Much child abuse occurs through churches. Some churches still advocate beating children in front of the congregation.

All abuse is traumatizing. Anyone who has been abused as a child has been traumatized. Traumatized parents will have difficulty raising their own children. Occasionally it happens that a child will recognize, during his or her childhood, that what his or her parents are doing to her or him is wrong and she or he will begin to plan to be a different sort of parent. Although they can do a better job, it is difficult. When a traumatized parent’s child begins to go through the normal Terrible Twos stage of growth, it can be very difficult for that parent to restrain him or herself from doing what her or his parents did. The parent often feels as if a child’s normal temper tantrum is directly assaulting him or her. It feels as if the child’s tantrum is saying, “You are a bad parent!” Or “You gave birth to a bad child!” Or “You are spoiling your child!” This thinking is especially true if a parent is out in public with his or her child and the child begins to have a tantrum. Then there are others witnessing. Few abused, traumatized parents understand that most two or three-year-old children will have tantrums occasionally and it is not a reflection on the parent. Few abused, traumatized parents know how to handle a child’s temper tantrum effectively.

The opposite of abuse is spoiling a child. Some abused adults will react in a manner that is completely different from their parents and spoil the child. Allowing the children to have their own way, most of the time and giving them whatever they want, when they want it. Children who are raised in this manner often become highly self-centered. The purpose of parental discipline is to help children learn self-discipline. No one can be in our society and do whatever they want, anytime they want, without regard for others. If children are raised to think they can be this way, they will have a difficulty developing healthy relationships during their adult years. Healthy discipline is not abusive, and a lack of discipline may be perceived as a different sort of abuse. Children need guidance and guidance can be given positively. It is a question of being a balanced parent.

The first step to begin to resolve this type of problem is for parents to recognize that they have been either traumatized, or spoiled during their childhood. Recognizing the problem can be difficult. When we are in and part of a situation, it is difficult for us to see it objectively. A few visits to a counselor or therapist can help a parent begin sorting through his or her issues. Getting counseling is the most important step a parent can take. A good enough therapist will be able to gently guide a traumatized or spoiled parent through his or her traumatic experiences, toward becoming healed, whole and healthy. Too often, children are brought into therapy, when it is actually the parents who need therapy. A good enough therapist will be able to perceive the problem in the parents and will gently guide the parents into recognizing their problem. As parents heal from their traumatic, abusive (or spoiled) childhood and are treated kindly and with wisdom, they begin to feel better about themselves and about their children. Parents are then much more able to learn and use better parenting skills. As they do this, they begin to feel better and better about themselves. This is the cycle of health and is the soil in which authentic self esteem will take root and grow.

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